I have decided that I REALLY want to get T off the paci ASAP. It's really starting to pull his front teeth forward because he sucks SO hard. SO, we're looking for suggestions that worked for you. We tried clipping the tip and he announced "bai (pronounced bye) broken, get new bai" and then he basically screamed and cried when we told him that was the new special pace we had bought for him. He wanted it in the garbage and for us to get an old paci. HA! We've suggested mailing all his paci's to his new baby cousin and he said "No, Tegan's bai." I know we also need to be more firm... but really, it's hard and when that's his bedtime staple and calms him it's just that more tough.
OK, I'm blogging at work, so I should go... as Jim would say (from The Office, of course) "that would be against office policy, my friend". ;)
Love to all!
~j
p.s. I know I'm due for a more detailed Tegan update, so I'll work on that this weekend (including pics)
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we're getting to the same place down here. I was thinking of doing a ferber method paci thing.
Take it away cold turkey and hope that after a week we'd be over the worst of it. I know Evan isn't old enough to understand the paci fairy or giving it to someone else.
I have heard of someone sewing it into the paw of a build-a-bear, so that Tegan would still know it was there - but he's a pretty strong willed guy so don't know if that would work for you or not.
I guess at least I'm glad he's using the paci and not his thumb - much harder to take the thumb away : )
Good luck!
We put them in a bag and "mailed" them to the "babies" of the world... Sutton brought his paci's out to the mailbox and surprise, the mailman brought him a choo choo train sucker as a reward...
It was hard the first week or so, but fine after that... Shaeffer still uses his at night and we are slowly talking about how we are going to mail his away too... To prep him for what is to come!
Hi Jenn. I was a thumbsucker. Till I was almost 10!! So, needless to say I was terrified about my daughter doing that. To my dismay she is a two finger sucker instead! Nice huh!? She's just over a year now. I've done a lot of looking on this and from what I've read it said that MOST will give up the sucking by pre-school (obviously I was that small number...again). So, I'm taking heart that she'll let her fingers go by pre-school. THEY say that if that is the case then there won't be any permanant damage and any shifting of the mouth and teeth will correct itself. I guess you could take heart in that. But, what did it for me (and obviously I was older and easier to reason with) after my mom tried everything from bitters, to taping my thumb in my sleep, to gloves...was bribery. I couldn't get my ears pierced until I could prove I was over it (at least a month or more). That's huge for a young girl, and I wanted it so bad. It took me almost two years, but I did it. Although, I have to admit that during really stressful times my husband has told me he has seen me suck my thumb in my sleep. That's sexy! Anyhow, I know T is young and I don't have experience with that age group but maybe bribery would work. My daughter never took to a paci. We gave it to her in hopes that she'd take it over her fingers, but nope. You could always try the bitters on the paci. Maybe he'll learn to dislike the flavor and give it up. I, however, sucked right on through the bitters (Called Thumb, and used for nail bighting, it's a liquid). And if you did go with the cold turkey thing, it works (again from reading that is) but you just have to tough it out, and I know that's hard. Good luck.
Sorry. One more thing. I also apparently have a thing with Oral Fixation, so after I gave up the thumb sucking I put other things in my mouth...gum, straws, hair... Which led to a whole new array of issues. Including sleeping with a teddy bear until my 20's. Man, seeing this stuff written out makes me feel like a weirdo. Anyhow, maybe you should talk to his doc about what they thing the appropriate thing to do is. And, in light of the recent tragedy in your home (with the assumption that T knows about it, and even if he doesn't he knows SOMETHING is wrong) this might not be the time to take away his comfort and assurance. Just a thought.
Well if you get rid of T's paci please tell me what worked because Ella still sleeps with hers. It stays in the bed and she only gets it at bedtime though. When I check on her during the night though it's not usually in her mouth but by morning when she is awake, it's back in until I pull her from the bed! When I say she's NOT a baby she retorts she's not big enough to touch the ceiling yet (I guess reasoning doesn't work with an almost 3 year old :) Good Luck! Oh as for the thumb sucker, my older sis was about 12 but I will ask her hubby if she sucks in her sleep! That's so funny!
Can you get him to use it only at naptime/bedtime? I have a friend trying to wean her almost-3 year old son off of his and they are doing it in phases. Whenever he wakes up, they make a game of thowing his paci into his bed and it has to stay there. (Lauren and I do this too so she's getting used to the idea that it has to stay in her bed). Soon, she's going to try to cut it down to just at nighttime...
We made the bedtime ONLY transition around 9 months. The only exception has been when he's sitting with us in church. But as soon as the benediction is over I pull it out, HA! That will be a tough one because he wants to talk to us SO bad during service, though the paci only served as a muffler for that lately. We'll give the nursery a try again, I think.
I wish I could urge you to take it away, but your mate had a baba until he was 3! Gary and I can't remember how we took Bri's pacifier away, suspect it was arranged around Becca's arrival. You may want to consider waiting until you return from Hawaii!
Grandma M
Smilingly Grandma E. adds (late on Fri. after coming from your house)
that this timing does sort of stink. :) Oh well, one way or the other it has to be done, but...I sure hope he has an ok night tonight...for all of you! Love...
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